Choose Yourself: Kirstylez’s Reckless Love and the Art of Healing

When heartbreak becomes a compass

There are songs that mend, songs that celebrate, and songs that make you stop and look inward. Kirstylez’s new single belongs to the third kind. Ethereal, intimate, and born in a home studio, the track does more than narrate a breakup. It issues a clear invitation: choose yourself before you hand your heart away again.

From cloud drive sketches to a single that refuses to be small

Kirstylez has always used songwriting as a way to illustrate complex thoughts and feelings. What started as sketches stored in a cloud drive eventually became a song shaped by lived experience. As she says, “I’ve always enjoyed creating songs as illustrations of thoughts and feelings people like me can relate to.” After a string of relationships that left her wiser and more cautious, the music turned into a message: it matters where love comes from, so choose wisely and choose yourself first.

This is not a calculated pivot toward melancholy. It is a deliberate airing of vulnerability. The track takes the private notebook lines and translates them into a voice that speaks for anyone who has been bruised by emotional carelessness.

A voice of reason, not revenge

If the song had to wear a label, it would read practical and vulnerable. “This song carries itself as a voice of reason and a caveat to consider before carrying on your actions to be emotionless and wreckless,” Kirstylez explains. The record calls out reckless behaviours and the people who treat relationships as disposable, but it refuses to lean into spite. Instead it centres self love.

The lyrical thrust is short and clear: protect your heart and make decisions that honour your worth. That clarity is what gives the song its power. It is a conversation, not a confrontation, and that makes it feel more universal.

Soundscape: ethereal R B with a late night pulse

Musically, the single lives in the space between Sza and Kehlani without imitating either. It’s ethereal and spacious, with low fidelity vocal textures that make the hook sit like a memory you keep returning to. The arrangement relies on space more than force, letting vocal inflection and subtle production choices do the heavy lifting.

Kirstylez describes the sound as “a bit of an ethereal feel influenced by the stylistics of Sza and Kehlani.” The sonic decision to keep vocals slightly lo fi gives the chorus warmth and intimacy. That vocal texture turns the hook into an emotional echo, the kind of moment that settles in your chest after the song ends.

The beat that travelled: an unlikely cross-continental spark

One of the more modern chapters of this song is its origin story. Kirstylez first stumbled across the beat on Instagram, created by a young producer in Dubai. She bought a bulk of beats from his store, and when a planned collaboration with another artist fell through, the producer offered this specific beat directly.

What could have been a transactional moment became a creative catalyst. “I initially heard this song on Instagram by a kid in Dubai that is a music producer and beat maker,” Kirstylez recalls. “He showed his production process and instantly I was like, I want that beat.” That enthusiasm turned into ownership, and the beat provided the frame for a deeper emotional statement.

Fifth project, home studio, new vulnerability

This is Kirstylez’s fifth recorded project and the first where certain production choices pushed her into new emotional territory. Working from home, she faced the familiar constraints of limited space and resources, but also the freedom to experiment without pressure.

“At first I did want to take a sensual bad girl kind of approach, but after being inspired by an artist I knew who had their heart broken, it’s really a message to them knowing that I know what it feels like,” she says. The result is a record that intentionally leans into vulnerability rather than defending against it.

Vocal alchemy: plugins, low fidelity, and the hook

Technically, the production is an exercise in restraint. Kirstylez experimented with vocal plugins and low fidelity textures to enhance the chorus and give it a lived in feeling. That choice was risky. Lo fi colours can make a vocal sound distant or messy when misapplied, but here they become a tool for intimacy.

She calls the vocal strategy a success. The hook lands with emotional clarity while maintaining a tactile, bedroom-studio aesthetic. For producers and singers, the track is a case study in how modest home setups can produce emotionally resonant results with intentional processing and arrangement.

Cultural context: breaking a mould, owning a voice

Beyond the universal themes of heartbreak and healing, this record is also informed by Kirstylez’s identity as a Filipina Asian Canadian. She views part of her work as pushing back against narrow cultural expectations. “We don’t have to satisfy the expectations that others see in us,” she says. That refusal to fit into an archetype bleeds into how she writes, sings, and markets her music.

This cultural context makes the song more than a breakup track. It becomes an act of self definition, a refusal to mute parts of herself because they don’t fit someone else’s story.

Who this song is for: a quiet anthem for healing women

Kirstylez wrote the song for people who need permission to prioritise themselves. “I really want to connect to the world healing women like me who’s experienced similar emotions,” she explains. It is an anthem for anyone learning that vulnerability is not weakness but a doorway to self knowledge.

The record will resonate most with listeners who prefer reflection over spectacle, and healing over retaliation. For them, the song functions as both mirror and map.

What’s next: stay tuned, and expect momentum

Kirstylez is tight-lipped about immediate tour dates or performances. “All I can say to that is: stay tuned. lol” But the momentum is clear: a strong single, a distinctive voice, and production that proves her home-studio approach can translate to broader audiences.

Expect more music, likely more intimate moments, and a continuing exploration of how identity and heartbreak can coexist inside a song.

How to hear it and how to help it land

Listen to Kirstylez on Spotify and follow her for updates. Share the track if it connects with you. If you are a music creative looking to level up your vocal production, consider joining Campus by Beatcave or checking Beatcave membership resources to learn about vocal chains, home studio techniques, and practical promotion tactics.

In Kirstylez’s own words: “Let inspiration be the catalyst to your creativity. Once you’ve done so, you give yourself permission to have fun and explore. Live your dreams, feel the vibes, life is limitless, and possibilities are infinite.”